Wedding Planner Secrets: Top 10. Sharing pro secrets! In the middle of wedding planning, do you ever stop to wonder how to wedding planners do it? From the planning process to executing on the actual wedding day, it does take a lot, does it? From packing that emergency kit to bustling that dress, it is a lot to remember!
Wedding coordinators and planners can really make your wedding day a lot more “stress-free” than you think! But what if you want to manage things on your own? Well, in this article, we’re letting you in some juicy wedding planner secrets!
- Soft hold
- The “rest” of the wedding printouts/stationeries
- Re-purpose your decor and flowers
- Don’t underestimate the value of good entertainment
- Understand what you are expecting but be open
- Check out other dates
- Vendor Referrals
- Don’t use up all your budget (yet!)
- Ask your venue all the things that come with booking
- Listen to your gut
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Wedding Planner Secrets: Top 10!
1. Soft hold
You can do soft holds more often than you think. If you need maybe a day or two to sleep it over and review the contract further before signing and paying your vendor, you can ask for a soft hold.
This means they have penciled you down for the date of your wedding. When they get another inquiry, they will then call you and ask for your decision. You then have to decide if it is a yes or no.
This is a soft hold, and if a bully booking comes through, they will boot you out. But if you feel like you and your potential vendor had a great connection, and you didn’t feel like you were just “another bride,” they are most likely to respect the soft hold and call you first. If you really love your vendor, respect them and call them if you change your mind.
Another thing that you can ask your venue is their “unpopular” dates; those dates are usually the ones that you will get more savings on. You can reword this by saying, “we don’t want to book at the busiest times where our guests will most likely not attend, what are the least busy days you suggest?”
Once they give you the dates, you follow up with.. “that’s great! that also sounds like some extra savings for us, right?”
Then you let the venue coordinator work something up for you!
PRO TIP: Create your own wedding email. Create an email account specifically for your wedding – “email@example.com” (this is just an example). This will help you put everything together in one place.
Also, manage the calendar for bookings and deadlines. When you book appointments on your wedding email calendar, invite your personal email so you can also see them on your personal calendar! Having a separate personal/work and wedding email will make you more focused and organized!
2. The “rest” of the wedding printouts/stationeries
In terms of the save-the-date card and the actual invitations, you can have them custom designed.
There are great online websites like Minted, where they make the most elegant wedding stationery designs, and you can spend them a little bit. In addition, you can sample the invitations first before you order your full suite!
Now for all the other stationeries like menus, programs, favor cards, and all other signs, you can mass print those at your local Staples, and they can print it and cut it on cardboard at a much more affordable rate. If you feel a little extra fancy, there are websites like Vistaprint where you can have some style selections and still keep it affordable.
To set the DIY wedding stationery, you can ask your venue coordinator to place them on the tables as they set up the tableware. Most venues will agree to do so. Or, if you have hired a day-of wedding coordinator, they will definitely set it up for you.
3. Re-purpose your decor and flowers
Always ask your decorator or florist if they can help you design something that can easily transition from ceremony to reception.
A little tweak like a vase change can easily change the flowers’ look, and it won’t look recycled. Ask your florist if they can add a few blooms to the centerpieces before setting it up for the reception.
This way, it will not look the same. It will be an extra fee, but it will be worth it and will still be much lesser than completely having a different set.
4. Don’t underestimate the value of good entertainment
You and your partner are the main attraction, of course, but your guests are your audience, and just like any event, without your guests, it’s hard to celebrate and party!
It might seem like entertainment like DJs, bands, photo booths, emcees, hosts, and performances are extra costs, but they are good investments in real-time.
Your guests will have a better time at your wedding when there is great entertainment. Not that your wedding is boring, but it’s because not everyone will be able to enjoy the same thing or talk to you and your partner at the wedding. Give them a chance to enjoy themselves and a reason to stay until the end of the night to celebrate with you!
5. Understand what you are expecting but be open (Wedding Planner Secrets)
This is one of our fave wedding planner secrets. As you already know, it is essential to drill down what you are expecting. Which parts are negotiable and which aren’t?
Here’s why you might be expecting a 5-course filet mignon dinner but with a $100/plate budget.
That is hard. But if you ask your caterer what options they have to incorporate somehow what you want and stay within your budget.
It is very tempting to stick to the menu you have in mind and ask for quotes, and eventually book the vendor that offers the most affordable. Although this is an understandable approach, it is also very limiting.
One of the top wedding planner secrets is to ask around focusing on creative inputs, rather than just the price alone. Chefs are not just great at cooking but also creatively coming up with dishes.
They can curate something for you within your budget that can somehow incorporate your original menu ideas. Understand your expectations and be open to hearing from the creative pros; you might be surprised at how creative chefs and vendors can be – after all, that is why they are the pros.
If you are still having difficulty getting the price you want, try working around the portion size.
For instance, if you have fish, ask if they can make the portion of the fish smaller and maybe add more other starch like pasta or rice. Again, this is where the “creative” part will be helpful.
6. Check out other dates
If you have a preferred wedding date, even if it is available at your venue of choice, ask and see if any other dates open that might help you save some money. Remember what we mentioned earlier? See soft hold.
Of course, if your wedding falls on a hectic month (summer, awards season, etc.), there might be a premium added to your package. There is nothing sneaky or wrong with it (within reason); it is a straightforward supply and demand law.
The more demand, the higher the cost because there is not enough supply since venues can only book a maximum number of events per day.
If you check out other dates that might not be as busy, you might be able to save some money!
This, of course, depends on where you are, but in Canada, hard winter is less likely to be a low wedding season, unless, of course, that is what you are going for! Look at other dates and see if you can work your plans around them.
7. Vendor Referrals
This may sound very “cliquey”, especially from a wedding professional, but hear us out.
If you book the photographer of your dreams, they are mostly already working or have preferred vendors on their roster. This will be of great value to you on probably better pricing and when a group of vendors already worked together for a while. They have already established great working dynamics and understand each other’s styles.
For example, if the photographer and videographer have already worked before many times, the dynamics will be much easier. There is an unspoken flow and creativity bond between the vendors that will transcend through the results – and they are always great!
This is very true for wedding planners as well. If you found a wedding planner that you connected greatly with, they will be able to come up and refer you to a great team that has worked together already in the past. Your wedding planner will know the expertise that you need for your wedding and will be able to call it.
Think about Captain America leading the Avengers – that vibe, that amazing team together; only they’re fighting to get you the best wedding ever.
8. Don’t use up all your budget (yet!)
Leave some room in your budget for unexpected things. So if, for example, your original meal budget per person is $150, only aim to book 80-90% of that, meaning around $120-135 will be your goal booking.
Suppose you are working with a caterer or a venue; check your options for both pricing. Similar menus, but of course, the more expensive one has more stuff in it. Book the $120-$135 price range. This means you have booked your venue/caterer.
That extra 10-20% is such good padding for you to spend if something unexpected arises. Now towards the end, closer to your wedding, if everything is good and nothing unexpected came along, you have a choice if you’d like to upgrade the menu to $150 per person or if you want to save the money.
Note that if you chose to do this, make sure to speak to your venue coordinator/caterer; when is the last date for you to give the final menu choice and numbers? This way, you can decide and plan better.
9. Ask your venue all the things that come with booking (one of our fave wedding planner secrets!)
Ask your venue what you can get exactly. Usually, this will be in the contract, like chairs, napkins, linens, tables, and other common things. But we’re talking about other things that might be more affordable if you book them through them.
For example, you might want to add some couches to the lounge area for cocktails; ask your venue if they have something in-house that you can rent. Then compare it to the price quoted by outside vendors.
Delivery and pick-up fees are something you can save if you can already rent something that they already have in their premises/property.
Another example is the draping. Again, if you are looking for some draping, ask them how much they charge and compare it to the pricing from an outside vendor. More often than not, in the end, including convenience, delivery, set-up, and tear-down, it won’t be much of a difference.
Ask your venue about other things that you might want to book somewhere else first and see what they can offer for you. More often than not, they will be able to help you and get you better pricing.
10. Listen to your gut
This is probably not one of the top wedding planner secrets anymore, but this is definitely something important to mention. There are so many things professionals can tell you and share with you, but you and your partner’s decision is what really matters at the end of the day.
Listen to your gut. Professionals are here to look out for you and give you the best advice we can.
Still, internally and ultimately, you and your partner are the only 2 people in the world that know your circumstance better than anyone else.
Don’t let anyone push you into making decisions that you are not comfortable with. In combination with your gut, research and vetting will be your best compass in finding the right vendors and people to entrust your wedding to.
There you are! Wedding Planner Secrets: Top 10!