Mingle & Enjoy! Is it normal to not want to have a sit-down meal at a wedding?
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Is it normal to not want to have a sit-down meal at a wedding?
Here is the full question:
“Is it normal to not want to have a sit-down meal? And do a stand-up / hors d’oeuvre and food stations for the reception?”
Absolutely! It is your wedding, and there are no “hard” rules! It will be so much fun!
When choosing a cocktail style reception instead of a sit-down dinner, there might need to be some things that you will have to pay a little more attention to:
VIBE. It’s a more laid-back, intimate- “take it easy” type of vibe. You can still make it absolutely formal or casual; this is still all up to you. But this is something that you would like to set and advise your guests so that they can prepare ahead (i.e., not wearing super high heels)
TIMING. Since most of the guests are mingling and not actually sitting down, cocktail weddings tend to be shorter in length, which is how you will most likely pocket some savings.
SPACE & DESIGN. Since most of the guests are mingling and not actually sitting down, cocktail weddings tend to be shorter in length, which is how you will most likely pocket some savings.
Design your cocktail wedding AS IF it is a sit-down wedding. Incorporate your theme and creatively set up areas for your guests to enjoy the experience. Of course, you can always speak to a consultant / designer to help you develop great designs and creative options.
COMFORT. Even when your guests are not sitting down (literally), ensure that there are comfortable lounge areas that they can still hang and enjoy the night. You will still want them to sit down and lounge.
Mix cocktail/high-top tables with bar stools with cushion, comfortable lounge seating with tables. We would usually suggest adding a few regular tables if you expect some elderly guests, or even use it as a “grandparents” and “kids” table.
SEATING AREA. Add an extra 10-20% of the seating area. Remember, guests will be grouping themselves, which you have no control over since there will be no assigned seating. Having extra space/s or area/s where they can hang will help with crowd control.
FOOD. Set the mood with light appetizers: bread bites, mini salad cups, mini soup cups, Caprese skewers, and the like. (See how they are literally appetizers but in bite-size form?)
Then go into the mains: pulled pork sliders, mini burgers, falafel balls, chicken and waffles, meatball skewers, mini pizza, mashed potato balls, sushi/poke bites, and the like. (See how these are all heavy hitters? No hungry stomachs in your cocktail wedding for sure!)
CLEAN-UP STAFF. Ensuring that you have extra bussers is essential. A passed appetizer has such a quick turnaround, meaning guests will be leaving empty plates and glasses on tables quite often.
The last thing you want to see at your cocktail wedding is a pile of dishes on a table – that no one has picked up yet!
SIGNAGE. Have signs up to help your guests navigate the space. It will be a little trickier to find the washroom since everyone is standing! Put up signs to help them know where to go.
Another thing you can share or have on every table and/or lounge area is a breakdown of the timeline.
For example, if entertainers are coming at a specific time, let them know to miss anything. If you have your DJ announce what will be happening next, the better.
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