Writing your wedding vows is a fantastic (and super sweet!) idea. While customized vows make weddings a lot more special, it is also one of the most overwhelming tasks that soon-to-weds face when planning, coordinating and preparing for their special day.
To help you, we’ve listed the dos and don’ts (great tips!) so you can write wedding vows that you and your loved one would treasure forever.
** THE DOS **
SPEAK FROM THE HEART
Keeping a cue card on hand for you to read your vow is a wise idea. More like a bullet form, not a paragraph. However, use what you’ve written only as a guide. You don’t want your eyes glued on your notes. Allow yourself to speak from the heart and share the precious moment with your partner and your guests.
AGREE ON A FORMAT AND TONE
Discuss with your partner on how you would want your vows to be—would it be romantic and formal? Or do you want to add a little humor? How many words/points would your vows be? Also, the time frame. How long will it be?
KEEP IT SHORT AND SWEET
It understandable that you want to share to the world how much you love the person you’re marrying and what lengths you’d go for him/her. However, you don’t want your guests (and even your partner) lose interest in what you’re saying because you’ve kept on rambling on how special your love is. Keep it to a maximum 2-3 minutes. Remember, you have a lifetime to prove to your other half how much s/he means to you.
PRACTICE IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR
Do not skip this part! It’s important that you read aloud what you’ve written for several times so you’re already comfortable when you actually recite your vows during your wedding ceremony.
–> CREATIVE APPROACH(MUST READ!!) <–
If you feel like writing your wedding vows in a day or even a week is too much, try writing the vows right after you get engaged. Too much? Ya think? Hear me out. Write a sentence expressing either how much you love him or something special he has done each month, from the day you got engaged. Just like a mini documentary. If you’re really feeling creative, snap pics to support what you’ve written.
If you actually recall details of specific moments that really stood out for you, even before you got engaged, write those down as well, as you remember them. Even if you don’t get to include everything in your speech, you can then “renew your vows” every year on your anniversary. Yep, I just gave you an idea on what to write on you anniversary card. Yeah, you might not even need Hallmark! Uhm. Right? How sweet is this?
** THE DON’TS **
FORGET ABOUT MAKING PROMISES
Writing your wedding vow is not just about sharing what your relationship is and demonstrating how much you love the person you’re marrying. It’s about making commitments *obviously that’s why they’re called vows* that you intend to keep for the rest of your married life. Try to include general promises such as, “I will always be your support system,” and some specific ones like, “I promise to try to wake up early and exercise with you.”
GO OVERBOARD WITH JOKES
While it’s OK to share some funny antics about your partner or your relationship, the last thing you want is for your vow to turn into a huge joke. Find the right balance between humor and the more meaningful part of your commitment to your loved one. Write your wedding vow with sass and humor, but be cautious not to go overboard with the jokes.
Yes, writing your wedding vows should be personal, but don’t make it too personal. Remember you’ll be reciting them in front of family and friends so leave the intimate details and inappropriate details out of it.
** THEE MOST IMPORTANT THING**
THERE ARE NO RULES in writing your wedding vows. You guys are the only 2 people that know each other well. Your guests will appreciate you guys being true to yourselves and showing your personality. This is your day, you can laugh, cry and be crazy. Everyone around you will feel your happiness and love if you guys are your true selves. These Do’s and Don’ts are just to help you write the vows, but ensure your love and personality shines through! HAVE A BLAST! IT IS YOUR DAY! Yay! Super excited for you!
Writing personalized wedding vows add more magic a whole lot of lovely feelings and we hope that our tips would help you in writing your vows for your big day!
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