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Let’s be real—getting over someone when it’s clearly not going anywhere can feel like pulling your own heart out. You keep hoping things will change, checking your phone more than you should, and making excuses for why they’re acting distant. You might tell yourself it’s just a phase, or they’re “just busy,” but deep down, you already know the truth. It hurts, and that’s okay. What’s not okay is settling for less than you deserve. If you’re constantly waiting, wondering, and second-guessing your worth, it’s time to take a step back. You deserve consistency, respect, and effort—bare minimum should never be the goal. It’s tempting to chase closure or hold onto crumbs, but let’s shift that energy back to you.

The more you hold on to something that’s not working, the more you block what is meant for you. This blog is your friendly pep talk to help you stop romanticizing potential and start reclaiming your peace. You’ll learn simple, real-life steps to emotionally detach, stop responding out of habit, and resist the urge to wait for texts that never come. Healing starts with honesty, and we’re going to walk through it together. You’ll learn how to fill the gaps with healthier habits, create mental space, and get clear on what love is really supposed to feel like.

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No more overthinking or bending over backwards to keep someone who won’t lift a finger. When you stop doing all the work, you finally see how little they were actually giving. And trust me, that realization is your superpower. It’s time to shift the focus and give yourself the attention you’ve been pouring into them. You’ll feel stronger every day, and before you know it, you won’t even miss the version of them you made up in your head. This is your moment to move on, glow up, and get excited about the better things ahead. Because your heart deserves more—and now you’re finally ready to claim it.

How to Get Over Someone When It’s Not Going Anywhere

1. Call It What It Is (Not What You Wish It Was)

  • Be honest with yourself: Is this really going anywhere? (The answer is most likely no!)

  • If it’s been months of “almost,” vague replies, or empty promises, it’s okay to admit it’s not working. No more accepting mixed signals. Texts that are not even thought of or just don’t feel personal are totally something we are no longer accepting.

  • Stop romanticizing the potential and start seeing the reality. Look at what’s really happening: you’re not getting the attention unless you initiate, you don’t see any reciprocal effort, not even 20% of all the efforts that you have already shown, like what? Don’t place yourself in a situation where you’re set up to be hurt or merely tolerated. Nope—absolutely not. Nah-uh. You deserve so much more than that.

  • Truth bomb: someone who’s into you will show up consistently. This is a hard pill to swallow, but really, if they want to, they will, and if they haven’t, they probably don’t want to.

2. Clear Out the “Hope Hooks”

  • Mute them on social media (or unfollow, if you’re ready). Or at least set only specific times that you want to check your phone to begin with, until eventually you can totally mute or unfollow them.

  • Delete the chats you keep re-reading. Oh this one is really dangerous!

  • Remove photos, songs, and notes that keep dragging you back.

  • This isn’t being petty—it’s protecting your peace.

3. Replace the Habit, Not the Person : How to Get Over Someone When It’s Not Going Anywhere

  • Every time you want to text or check your phone for them:
    • Journal how you’re feeling instead.
    • Take a walk and listen to a “moving on” playlist.
    • Text a friend who actually loves hearing from you.
    • Talk to CHAT GPT – spill your thoughts. Ask CHAT GPT to be brutally honest with you and knock some sense into your head. I have done this many times, and honestly, I’m thankful I did.

  • Shift the emotional energy toward someone who shows up for you (like YOU!). Take yourself on a date, watch a movie, go attend a class or a new group (some are free and you don’t even have to pay!).

4. Make Space for Something Better

  • Letting go doesn’t mean you’re losing—it means you’re clearing space.

  • Think of this like cleaning out your closet: you’re tossing what doesn’t fit so you can find what truly does.

  • The bare minimum is not a prize—it’s emotional fast food that leaves you hungry. You do not deserve crumbs. Absolutely not!

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5. Create a “Queen Energy” Routine

  • Start your day with affirmations: “I deserve love that flows and grows.”

  • Fill your time with things that light you up: fitness, new hobbies, quality friendships. Watch movies that will make you laugh and inspire you. Check out museums and other places that will help you see the beauty of the world that has shrunk for a bit there because you focused your attention on someone who doesn’t really reciprocate.

  • Watch yourself glow the moment you stop chasing and start choosing YOU.

6. Crumbs Are Not Love (Let’s Be Real) : How to Get Over Someone When It’s Not Going Anywhere

  • If they’re only giving you attention when it’s convenient, that’s not effort—that’s ego. Proximity isn’t love, it’s just the easiest way to get to you, and the ones who are not into you will usually be within proximity. Once there is distance, you will not get any more effort or even the slightest attention because they are just not into you.

  • Crumbs are meant to quiet you, not feed you. When people feed you crumbs, they do it just enough for you to stay, but they will always keep you starving.

  • The right person won’t leave you feeling confused or chasing after their attention. They’ll communicate clearly and make the effort to show up. And if they don’t know how to? They’ll figure it out—Google exists, ChatGPT exists, and honestly, remembering your coffee order isn’t rocket science. But instead, they don’t try… and they don’t care enough to bother. That’s not love, and it’s definitely not what you deserve.

  • If you’re in the mood to be a little sassy and drop a one-liner, one of my go-tos is: “It’s your turn.” I use it in any kind of relationship—especially when I find myself at that familiar crossroad where I’m once again expected to be the one to fix things or close the gap. That simple line says it all. How the other person responds (or doesn’t) will show you exactly where they stand. If they don’t show up, take action, or meet you halfway, that silence speaks volumes—and it’s your sign that there’s nothing real holding it together. FOR REAL. There’s nothing there at all.

7. Remember Why You Started to Let Go

  • Create a note on your phone called “Reasons I Deserve More.” I’ve even set quiet little alarms throughout the day to remind myself of that truth when I need it most. When your days are full and your mind is busy, it’s easy to stay distracted and avoid reaching for your phone. But those feelings? They’ll still come up. And that’s totally normal. The key is to allow yourself to sit with them, feel them fully, and start unpacking what’s really going on—because that’s how you begin to release, heal, and truly let go.

  • Read it when you feel weak or nostalgic.

  • You didn’t leave because it was easy—you left because staying was costing you your worth.

  • This is also a great time to pause and ask yourself: do you truly want this person, or are you craving the feeling of being chosen? Are you longing for a kind of love you didn’t get when you were younger—something you’ve been hoping to feel now that you’re older? Sometimes, the kind of love and attention we grew up with may have felt like crumbs too, and that can trick us into thinking this is just how “love” works. But I want you to know—it’s not. Real love doesn’t leave you questioning your worth. You’re better off alone than with someone who gives crumbs- ugh!

You’ve Got This : How to Get Over Someone When It’s Not Going Anywhere

Letting go is hard, but it’s also the first step toward something so much better. You’re not “too much.” You’re not hard to love. You’re just finally done settling. When you stop waiting on someone who won’t give you more, the right one finally has room to find you.

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