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Picture this: you’re knee-deep in wedding preparations, your to-do list seems to grow longer with every passing day, and your phone has become a permanent appendage, thanks to an endless stream of messages from vendors, in-laws, and that friend who insists on sending you more cat videos than you could ever need.
This can easily take you into major stress levels, but not you, you’re a calm soul.
If you’ve found yourself navigating the treacherous waters of wedding preparations with grace, a smile, and a calm demeanor that rivals a monk’s, congratulations—you sound like a calm bride!
Planning a wedding is notorious for being stressful, but you, my dear mindful wedding newlywed-to-be, have decided to take a different approach.
**Before we go on, we wanted to acknowledge that whether you’re a calm bride, a not-so-calm bride, or somewhere in between, your love story is unique and beautiful. And that, my friends, is what truly matters.
Now let’s explore the 15 signs that reveal your inner zen during the wedding planning process: 15 Signs You’re Actually a Calm Bride
1. You Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
The first and most unmistakable sign of a calm bride is that you’re not fretting over every minor detail.
This is not to say that details aren’t important, because they absolutely are. But the difference is, you don’t let the details take over your day or your life!
You know how to embrace imperfections without sacrificing your overall vision and goals.
2. Your Pinterest Board is Your Happy Place
You’ve got a Pinterest board that rivals the Library of Congress in size, and you love adding new pins. However, you also know when to step away and not let it consume you.
Not only that but over time, you have probably narrowed down your Pinterest boards to a more manageable size. As you decide on more things, you get clearer on the decision you are going for.
3. You Are A Delegation Royalty
You can almost always equate calmness with delegation.
With your understanding that it takes a village to create something great and big, you are more than happy to get the people you trust to get involved and accept help when and where you can.
Having said this, you also know that not everyone can do things the same way as you do, and you’re actually okay with that.
4. You Embrace the Unexpected
So the weather forecast says it might rain on your wedding day… Now what?
Well, luckily for you, you are OK with this. You get it. Some of the best memories come from unexpected moments.
Most likely, you already have a plan B to ensure that you cover all your bases – which constitutes your calmness.
5. You Prioritize Self-Care (one of the most important 15 signs you’re actually a calm bride)
Yes. You love yourself enough to take time for yourself.
You operate out of grace which includes going on activities that fill your cup – whether it be a movie night, a bubble bath, a yoga session, or a relaxing massage.
Self-care also involves saying no to things that just don’t bring you peace and joy.
Someone asks you to come to a birthday that will be at a club, but that’s not your vibe and you love to sleep early – so your calm soul respectfully declines and offers a brunch at a later date.
6. You’re a Budgeting Master
You’ve set a mindful, creative, and fair budget – and you are sticking to it.
While you might splurge a bit on the things that matter most to you, you’re not losing sleep over minor financial hiccups.
Think about doing a house renovation, you know there will be unexpected things that will come up, but we already know that. So you creatively navigate the budget and manage expectations and emotions so you can keep your footing and not stress over things you can’t control.
7. You Handle Family Drama with Grace
Family can be… well, challenging. But you handle any potential family drama with grace and diplomacy, ensuring that everyone feels heard and valued.
As hard as it is, you know how to stand up for yourself without disrespect. You don’t get defensive and you have responses that are so kind and graceful, it is almost impossible to have a comeback.
8. You Respect The Timeline You’ve Set
A calm bride knows the importance of a timeline. You’ve planned well in advance, leaving no room for last-minute panics.
Timing your activities and meetings in a way where you can be present and not feel overwhelmed is why you are a calm soul.
9. You Take Regular Breaks (another one of the most important 15 signs you’re actually a calm bride)
If we’re being honest, wedding planning is essentially a part-time job you’re working on.
But you know what, you know how to schedule breaks in between your full-time job and your newly started part-time job aka wedding planning.
You know that stepping away from the madness can lead to better decisions and a healthier mindset.
10. You Trust Your Vendors
The vendors you’ve hired and chosen aren’t just based on the cost alone, although it does of course affect the decision, but you chose them mostly because you trust them enough to execute for you.
You’ve researched and vetted these vendors well enough that you don’t have the need to micromanage every detail because you have faith in their expertise.
11. You Focus on the Big Picture
In your heart and mind, you know that the most important thing about your wedding is the celebration of life and love alongside your family and friends.
Because of this, you don’t let trivial details overshadow that.
12. You’re Not Obsessed with Perfection
While you want everything to be beautiful, you also know that perfection isn’t the goal, well, you know there is no such thing as perfection to begin with.
You’ve set enough healthy boundaries to be able to let go of things that are no longer within your control.
This does not mean that you don’t get upset or sad when things don’t work out, but you can manage those feelings with grace and hold appropriate people accountable without lashing out.
13. You’re Open to Compromise
Calm newlyweds-to-be are flexible and open to compromise.
Nope, this does not mean you’re giving up total control or you’re not standing up for yourself.
This only means that you recognize that not everything will go EXACTLY as planned. You have a great balance of “standing up for yourself” and “creatively compromising.”
Speaking to people kindly and giving them the “benefit of the doubt” is something you practice. You can keep people around you accountable for their actions without using character assassination or rude words.
If it does go as planned, that’s great, but if it doesn’t, you also are okay with it.
14. You’ve Got a Sense of Humor
Mishaps and mistakes happen. But you are grounded enough to look at the funny and positive side of things.
You go into problem-solving mode with a fun approach. You are kind to yourself, making it easier to be kind to other people.
Funny enough (yes! that was a pun!) when you look at things positively and in a fun way, you feel more creative, and amazing ideas come about.
15. You’re Excited for the Future
Yes, of course, you enter every present moment with grace, but you also feel excited about the future.
You cannot wait to spend the rest of your days with the love of your life and start an incredible journey together.
Because you are excited for the future, you can enter the present moment with grace and kindness.
〰️ As much as it is challenging, you can embrace the moments of chaos, cherish the surprises, and savor every step of this incredible adventure.
In the grand scheme of things, your wedding day is just the beginning of an exciting new chapter.
** Again, whether you’re a calm bride, a not-so-calm bride, or somewhere in between, your love story is unique and beautiful. And that, my friends, is what truly matters.